If you don’t know me personally, I’m quite familiar with Sex and The City, the HBO series starring Sarah Jessica Parker. Her character, Carrie Bradshaw had the most unrealistic life in New York City as a columnist, who could apparently afford a gorgeous apartment in Manhattan’s West Village and who also managed to eat out for brunch every day with her three girl friends.
Carrie lived a life that any writer could dream of, but the profit and social life cost doesn’t prove to be sustainable. However, there are some articles I’ve read about lessons learned from the show, particularly about dating, in which some factors pertain to this next thought..
I’m just pass 20.5 years old, and for some reason everyone seems to be stuck in these three made-up stages of life:
- can’t grow up in college and close to graduating or refusing to graduate
- just graduated and has a job but still wants to be in college
- thinking about how you’re still single and others are engaged or having children
These three aren’t even relevant to my own personal timeline, although through Twitter and Facebook observations, this is the list I’ve composed.
First of all, who cares if you’re single? That’s fine. There’s no set-in-stone contract saying you have to have a significant other by 24, get engaged, get a dog, get married, have two children, etc. Some people enjoy having this path laid out for them, and others do not. All that is complicating life and adding more to an equation some people haven’t even figured out yet. If so, you could be the one who hasn’t grown up yet and gets really drunk around your high school friends, and then gets in a fight about your maturity…..maybe.
Me, for example, I like to go with the flow. As an almost graduate, I’ve been asked many times what my plan is after I graduate (early even), and I say: ‘I just want to write.’ I know that doesn’t pay the bills, but i’ll figure that out when the time comes, and i’m quite alright with that’ considering the early-life crisis breakdown I experiences in March.
Some people have anxiety (something I’ve learned a lot about in college) and need to have a plan written out for them, or maybe their family paints that picture. Whoever you are, do what you want. Don’t freak out if you didn’t marry your high school sweet heart (you probably shouldn’t have). Don’t freak out if there isa ton of pictures on Facebook of new born babies or engagement parties. You are YOU and you will find your path when the time comes. Some people purposely choose to not have a path and they are happy. It just depends on whether or not you want to live your own life or allow others to influence it. 
Back to Carrie…. the four women in the show range from early thirties to Samantha being in her forties. Yes this is a show and the unrealistic qualities continue, but, they battled having a family and staying single so many times. In the end, they all ended up in realistic situations in which they were happy. Some refer to this path as God’s work and that’s fine too. Don’t force this path and don’t get frustrated if its not what you should be doing because no one knows what you should be doing at any point in time. Time is so many things, so take advantage of that and live your own life and love it. If you don’t, change it and buy some really expensive shoes like Carrie.