The New Year is here! Happy 2012 everyone. Hope this year is good to you. To start off my first post in the new year, I’ve decided to address such a common issue in everyone’s life and to suggest some ways in which how to deal with it. Anger. So many issues cause an individual’s temper to rise and various events could easily break out from their anger. I guess you could categorize this topic in a gender issue too. It’s quite obvious, from personal experiences, that some males take care of their anger in more violent manners than females would. Men tend to go searching for the hardest surface in sight to punch once something takes a wrong turn. On the other hand, girls deal with being upset in various ways. They could breakdown and cry, take it out on someone else, cuss every possible term in the book, or maybe do something they love to take their mind off of the issue.
Well no matter what your gender is, there are plenty of other activities to take part in in order to release all of the negativity in your life. Speaking for myself, I easily get angry at people or in certain situations, but over time I have practiced different techniques to keep myself composed.
Write a fake letter: Take some time either immediately after the event or later on that day to sit down and write a fake letter. This alternative mainly concerns an argument, grudge or a simple debate you encounter with another person. While writing this letter, express your feelings as if you were actually going to give it to the informant. Let it all out on the paper, but again, try to contain yourself and don’t just trash talk the other person. Really give them the insight on your thoughts and why you are having them. Towards the end, bring up any possible solutions. I recommend you wait to perform this task in order to come terms with yourself in every way. If you write a letter as soon as the event occurred then everything will be the other persons fault (regardless if it is or is not) and they are the worse wperson in the world and they just look and smell like poop. If you wait, then you will have a clearer mind to let it all out.
Kickboxing/Body Combat class: I experienced my first body combat class two summers ago while I was visiting family in Maryland and I absolutely loved it. It is basically kick boxing but not many guys take part in it. I suppose it is more for self defense. This option fits in with doing something you love when you’re angry. Some people play sports when they’re angry or write down their thoughts or comin a violent activity. Well, guys, grab your girls and join a kickboxing class and take your anger out on each other…. the punching bag while also working on your muscles!
Talk to Someone: Simple task and quite popular. One thing I was always afraid of as I got older was not being able to release all of my thoughts and have them be bottled up inside to where I become sick and not able to function. Now, I’ve learned to use the people that say they are there for you and just unload on them. Make sure you have full trust in this person first, before you go telling them all of your stories and thoughts that you may regret down the road. Talking to someone else about your problems is always a wonderful way to relieve stress because they can listen and then maybe give advice to the situation, and if you wish to have advice.
Other suggestions:
- go for a run or hike
- play with your pets
- sleep it off
- read a book
- start up a journal and write every single emotion down
- play your favorite sport
- take deep breaths and even laugh about the situation at hand (if possible)
Stay away from hard surfaces and please do not keep negative thoughts inside your busy brain. It is already too complex to comprehend drama related events.
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