One of my friends was explaining the characteristics her past relationship had and it inspired me to analyze my own relationship with people.
Do the surrounding individuals bring you up or down in life? Or do they encourage you to succeed at all?
Every person in your life should have a purpose, and the knowledge to to assist you in having a purpose.
My friend said that she wants to grow in a relationship with someone and learn from them. She would rather affiliate herself with people who bring her up and make her life better than what it already is. The contradicting side would expose the negativity and rebellious attitudes toward life and personal goals.
Who is the selfish one in situations? You or your partner?
Whomever it is should consider the two scenes of an Act and allow another opinion.
Negative No-No’s
What else would you call them?
People who surround you who do the following:
- Complain about their life and everything and anything
- Never satisfied with what they have
- Make you as a person feel bad about yourself
- Make you feel like they can walk all over you
- Give major attitude
- Carry out an unhealthy routine that does nothing but hinder you
Golden Rule
My aunt always told me ‘You are who you hang out with’. As a young teen I was a punk kid and thought I was invincible and gave a lot of attitude to my mom and didn’t really care too much about what I did or what people thought of me. Typically, that’s how tweens are though. But, as we get older, we learn and know how to treat other people; the way you want to be treated. We all learned that rule in the early stages of education and now take it for granted due to various circumstances. Everyone is different in every way, whether it is social status, economic status, or just their personality. We tend to associate ourselves with people who share similarities in likes and dislikes, but not personality, or how they were raised or by subjective opinions. It’s always hard to see those differences ahead of time but eventually the negativity arises and you feel trapped. GET OUT. It’s so easy to say the word no to another person after it’s said once.
The idea is this: stand up for who you are, if you don’t know who you are, take time to find yourself and do not let anyone use you for their pet. Never stand under another individual (metaphorically) because before you know it, you’re shrinking in size just as fast as their head grows and absorbs all of your light.
Judgment
Honestly, I believe its healthy. Working in a gym, especially during the deadest hours, allows me to analyze my surroundings and then later take it to a level where I compare myself to others.
Let me explain why this is good.. at least in terms of fitness.
Someone who is running on a treadmill with terrible form and exercise attire is clearly not prepared for a successful workout. Any witness could take tips from that performance by knowing what they should and shouldn’t do in their own workout.
Let me explain why this is bad..
Impressionable for sure. Anyone can be. Skinny Minnie’s strutting their stuff could introduce several events to a witnesses life. For example, anorexia, excessive exercising, bad eating habits, and maybe just staring problems.
I’m sure no one thinks this deep into daily situations such as mine, but it’s good to know the black and white results of casual actions.
Judging occurs in unhealthy relationships/friendships when the other person doesn’t comply or fit the needs of the opposite. With judging comes hostility and then an unnecessary blow up that could have been avoided.
What now?
Find people who attract your eye by listening. Getting to know people before committing to anything is so important. This is primarily why a lot of college students have many acquaintances but only a few close friends. I find it important to have that so that I don’t get my hopes up with people who can’t hold their word. During rare occasions is when those good keeper friends will prove themselves and its just then that you appreciate their assistance in your life and grow from their experiences.
It’s all about respecting each other and acknowledging even the smallest notions because in the end, no one has to do anything for you. You are your own person.