Pushed Aside

 One of the topics I forgot to mention in my college post was the subject of friends. The group that you grew up with in high school were considered family and knew your every secret. Well, September comes and there’s thousands of new people to meet and become friends with. What if I don’t want new friends?

‘I want to hang out with the same people. I don’t know how to meet new people and converse with others that don’t understand my sense of humor and awkwardness.’

Stop thinking, right now.

After my first break home from school it was definitely hard to realize that the friends I used to have moved onto a full time job, a boyfriend, or just better friends. Depending on who answers you in time of need, the friends who matter and remember that you still exist will still be around when a break comes up. They’re going through the same changes as you are and are just as confused. It’s also important to keep in mind that between ages 18-24 an individual alters their hobbies, interests and daily routine. At the end of those four years (High School) the best friend you made a bracelet for may not share the same laughs as he/she used to. And all I can say is that it’s something to move on from and create new friends.

But what about the group that still accepts you and is still willing to do foolish things with you without a thought? Well, go hang out with them. Soon, you’ll get bored of doing the same thing and they won’t invite you anymore. It’s hard to accept, but also a shelf on the bookcase of life. Once freshman year in college is over with, those black and white books on your shelf will slowly change to color and seem easier and easier to straighten out and be put in order.

I suppose this discussion is more for the thoughts of an ‘over thinker’ but I know everyone my age has these concerns; At least the ones with sporadic friendships. In the simplest terms I can put it in, days go by and life goes on. There are amazing people out there to meet and it just takes time and several experiences to locate them. Try to learn something from everyone you meet. Even if its the clerk at the gas station who you see every morning on your way to work when you stop for coffee. Everyone has a story, a fear, a struggle, a weakness, a strength and a life. It’s up to you to put all judgment aside and have an open mind to learn about others and create fresh bonds with wonderful people.

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” 
―C.S. Lewis