Not the movie, but the most frequently used phrase in the past week or so.
My question is why does something have to give. Can’t there be a better way of ending things with someone, or balancing out two activities?
It’s time to register for classes again and there is a concern that if I take too many required courses, then I won’t have enough time to work on the paper. In deciding my schedule, my adviser used “It’s either the paper or your classes, something’s gotta give.”
Technically not.. I chose three classes, 3 credits each, and weighed out the work in each class to determine how many credits I could work on the paper for. After two advising meetings, I managed to balance 18 credits and won a war I thought I couldn’t, all because of a casually intimidating phrase.
Loosely used, it still leaves a lump in my throat whenever someone makes this declaration, because when something has to go, it has to go. The phrase is typically used as a demand in communicating situations. No normal human being has a the will power to determine what factors should be erased from their life.
For example, you’re in a long term relationship or friendship with someone knowing that they are hindering your mental health, career or daily routine, whatever it may be. This interference just cannot go on any longer, but you care about this person and enjoy their presence. Thus comes the ultimatum, something has to give, the relationship or your life. Referring to a later post, I preached about how at the end of the day everything comes down to you and your well-being. Nothing if life matters more than your own being.
With that being said, the only healthy way to make a decision is to cut out any negative interference….in this case the person who is hindering your life needs to go. It’s one of those things where if they can’t change for you, then you need to change for you. It’s not your friend’s life that’s being damages, it’s yours and you have the control to do something about it.
In the end, my decision weighing worked out and landed me a position as Editor-in-Chief for the college’s paper, the Beacon. I’m extremely excited for next semester and my new responsibilities.
When you’re in a bind, just keep in mind what’s most important to your own person and not to anyone surrounding you. If other people care so much about you, their true colors will show when some changes are made.
